PatBlogahan.com: I Figured It Out -OR- Huh?
patmonahan: I have to admit.. I stayed up so late reading your blogs and was completely blown away. Your depth and intuition are amazing. You have such a huge heart, and I honestly share so much of what you do. I have never responded or even blogged before, but your words really made that much of an impact on me that I felt you should hear how much people really are moved and touched by what you do. We get so lost in our day to day lives and sometimes forget how many people we are influencing and how many are watching us. In response to this last blog about how we treat others the way we do, I feel is a complete result of all the relationships and responses we have gotten from them in our past. If we grow up continually being shut off and not shown affection or love more than likely we grow up not being able to express it or recognize it. If we grow up surrounded by love and support we are more likely to continue in healthier relationships.. the hardest and sadest part is knowing the fines lines of too much or too little and when to break away and when to let go. That troubling age of adolescents and having one true heartbreak can lead to building a huge wall of security and fear of being hurt. Being an adult child of an alcoholic, I have learned to be a people pleasure, almost too independent and unable to trust, and keep a guard up of fear of becoming my father or letting someone in life hurt me the way he has. Although, I was not abused, the neglect and silent addiction hurt more. Now that I am older and much more intuitive, I am able to use that broken relationship to my advantage and help others in similar places. We can not change who we are without facing our deepest problems. We can not heal without accepting and growing from it. I never realized how much his “silent addiction” shaped who I became until recently, and it was honestly like opening a whole new door of relief. So, trying to push our deepest fears and secrets out of way and ignoring them.. will only cause them to sneak up later on. They will stay with you and come out when you least expect it.. (from a previous post) Anyway.. it’s late and I apologize for going on.. but I truly understand and empathize so much of how you feel. I hope you take care of yourself and feel better because your tour was one of the best concerts I have been to! I saw yall in Charlotte, and know you have a ton of true fans waiting to experience the same thing we did! I can’t wait to see you again soon… Take Care!
Years ago I had a great therapist. Her name is Judi. She is a really special person and she was the start of a large transformation for me. I am forever indebted to her. I should call her more often to thank her and give her my love. Anyway, I mention her because I’ve been wondering why people…
